No one posts the pain, the tears, the squabbling. We forget that we are glancing at photo shopped images. In the process we fail to see our own blessings. We measure our lives through focusing on other people’s blessings and grow disenchanted. We become our largest obstacles towards attaining happiness. Feeling that they fall short causes grave unhappiness. Too many couples are comparing their spouse, vacation, home, children and very lives to others. The serious problem that social media introduces to marriage cannot be overlooked. You are the only one for me and together we will make this marriage work. There is no other soul I am looking at, comparing you to, or wishing to be with. This is the mindset that is needed to get through the challenges that life brings. When Adam was faced with difficulty he did not say, “You know what? I’m done with you Eve! Let me just find somebody else.” He could not say that because there was nobody else on the entire planet for Adam to find. Why is the Garden of Eden considered the zenith of happiness? Why mention the Garden of Eden where Adam and Eve were sent out from their home, and not other couples in the Torah whose stories teach the definition of love? The Blessing of Soul Mates: “Grant Happiness… as in the Garden of Eden” Even the smallest acts, like a call in middle of the day to say “I love you” can be a conduit to happiness and beloved friendship. Look into each other’s eyes and remember the first time you saw each other. Ask yourself how you can show your spouse that (s)he is important to you. Leave a loving note or text just because. Work on being kind and compassionate towards your spouse. How can we build this blessing of friendship in our marriage? The union is oneness that binds the couple together for eternity. Sharing joy and yes, even struggle together can bring us to accomplish our life mission for which we were created. One of the deepest layers of love is the unique friendship that marriage brings. Adam needed his ‘helpmate’ to gain purpose. The ability to soar higher accompanied by the energy of another.ĭespite having it all, paradise was meaningless. And yet God said, “It is not good for man to be alone.” What was missing?Ī life partner. He had no bills to pay, no problems, no pressure. Good food, great weather, and paradise itself. In a world where people have hundreds of Facebook friends but suffer from loneliness, marriage provides the blessing of genuine friendship.Īdam lived in the Garden of Eden. The Blessing of Friendship: “Grant Abundant Happiness to the Beloved Friends” Together we plug into each other’s light.
We do this with our soulmate who is also our life mate. Marriage is the formula through which we can elevate an ordinary apartment and transform it into a mikdash me’at - a mini sanctuary. Life together is an adventure in capturing that Godly essence and bringing it into our homes and everyday life. Our mission is to appreciate, value and even magnify that G-d given soul that is waiting to be revealed. Sometimes pressure or challenges dim the light.
The easy laughter, the sensitive nature, the honest being, the giving heart-whatever you saw is still there. Concentrate on focusing on the qualities that attracted you to one another. See your partner as a source of goodness to be discovered. This awareness nurtures profound respect for our spouse’s extraordinary light. One soul that had been separated into two at birth is now being reunited. Husband and wife come together to reveal that hidden majesty that each marriage contains. Each of us contains a soul that has been bequeathed to us from Above. Looking at our spouse and recognizing that within him or her lies a mysterious particle of God gives us the direction needed for reverence. What started as an incredible explosion of the cosmos can sadly become dull over time. It’s easy to take the gift of our spouse for granted. The Blessing of Light Within: “Blessed Are You God Who Formed Man in His Image” Let’s explore the inner meaning of four blessings. The blessings recited under the chuppah contain wisdom that help guide the couple to live together in harmony.
Together they whispered their silent prayers. The bride’s gown billowed in the breeze as the groom placed the ring upon her finger. At a recent wedding I was struck by the innocence and radiant love the young couple exuded.
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